After Sandy Hook, Parents Founded Program Teaching Students to Report Warning Signs

HANOVER, Mass. -- Less than two years after her 6-year-old son was killed at Sandy Hook Elementary School in 2012, Nicole Hockley was in an Ohio church basement teaching the first class of a program she hoped would help prevent future school shootings. The program, born in the grief of one of the nation's worst mass shootings, teaches students how to identify warning signs among their peers and urges them to report any red flags to an anonymous tip system or a trusted adult to head off any violence. Since that first class in a Columbus church, the program, "Say Something," has been presented to thousands of students nationwide. Nearly 395,000 tips have been sent in, ranging from threats of school shootings and suicides to drug use and bullying. One tip last year led to the arrest of an Indiana student who threatened a shooting at her school. "It's been very successful," said Hockley, whose son Dylan was among the 20 first graders and six educators who died at Sandy Hook in Newtown, Connecticut, on Dec. 14, 2012. "Having had direct experience of both of my children being in a school shooting and my youngest one dying, I feel very compelled to honor that legacy by doing all that I can to prevent future acts of violence and school shootings." Trainers with Sandy Hook Promise, a nonprofit founded in early 2013 by Hockley and other relatives of the Newtown victims, have traveled to all 50 states to show students how to spot signs of potential violence or self-harm — which can include threats on social media, an obsession with weapons or behavioral changes — as well as the importance of speaking up before something bad happens. For students who have grown up in an age where mass killings are often in the news and whose schools regularly run lockdown drills, having a way to take action can be comforting. "School shootings are definitely very scary, and they do run through your head as a high school student," said Addison Hunt, a 17-year-old junior at Hanover High School in Hanover, Massachusetts. "But I think being able to have these outlets where you can report things definitely makes me feel a lot safer." On a recent afternoon, a "Say Something" instructor took Hunt and her classmates through the program in the auditorium of the school, about 20 miles (30 kilometers) south of Boston. Keely Rogers, a 28-year-old former high school music educator, explained to the group that research has found that nearly all school attackers showed warning signs beforehand, most commonly on social media. "You are going to become the eyes and ears of your school through social media, right?" she said. "Your teachers and staff don't follow the same people as you. They can't keep an eye out. They can't keep everyone safe." In a slideshow she pointed to an Instagram post, pulled from a real tip to the group's reporting system, that said, "Don't come 2 school tomorrow if you wanna live." Rogers said someone reported the post within three minutes and action was taken. Ava Khouri, Hanover's senior class president, said one of the program's key points, for her, was not to worry about what others will think about you if you speak up. "I think that definitely students are wary to bring these issues up to adults and administration in the school, because they're worried they're either going to be made fun of for tattling or getting someone else in trouble," she said. "So I think that this program definitely gave light to the fact that you're not a tattletale if you're helping someone and you're helping others." Both Hunt and Khouri said they had reported troubling behavior to parents and educators before learning about the program. Trained crisis counselors staff the "Say Something" anonymous reporting system 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, referring serious situations to police and school officials. The most common tips are concerns about bullying, drug use, harassment and self-harm, according to Sandy Hook Promise. Every once in a while, the system receives an alarming tip that is immediately passed on to law enforcement. Last year in Indiana, among many examples, someone used the system to report that a student was planning a shooting at Mooresville High School, near Indianapolis, on Feb. 14. That's the anniversary of the 2018 massacre at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida. The student, 18-year-old Trinity Shockley, was arrested Feb. 12. The tipster, a friend of Shockley, said Shockley was obsessed with the Parkland shooter and had access to an AR-15 rifle, according to a police report. Authorities said Shockley's social media postings included one that said "Parkland part two. Of course. I've been planning this for a YEAR." Shockley pleaded guilty to conspiracy to commit murder and was sentenced in November to 12 years in prison, though her lawyer insisted that Shockley would not have carried out the plan, local news outlets reported. Sandy Hook Promise believes that its program and reporting system prevented a shooting in Mooresville, as well as in other communities, and has also stopped suicides. "So it's bittersweet," said Hockley, the co-founder, "because I wish this had existed before Sandy Hook."